Divorcebusting.com Forums Divorcebusting.com Archives Surviving the Big D Archives Positively moving forward

I was told that is was time to start a new thread so there it is. I don't really have much to comment on. Things right now are calm.

Finals for my students start tomorrow. I will have a lot of students who fail. I am trying to think of inventive ways to help that become lower, but even though all but 6 could have gotten to passing by doing some in class extra credit and writing down some vocab to use on a test, many didn't do any of it and a test that most should get a high C on, many got a 2 because they never looked up the vocab. What else can I do? I am not sure, but I will think about it. One thing is teaching teh math for physics differently now knowing how the math department does not teach story problems.

With H, nothing to report. We exchange texts about S and that is it. Peaceful coparenting.

I did ask H about the car because yesterday I spent 10 minutes trying to get it to start. I need to get it fixed, but am waiting on teh recall letter. HOpefull it comes sometime next week. NExt week starts a new tri and then I have two days and a 5 day weekend for Thanksgiving. I will bedecorating for Christmas, and hosting the Thanksgiving for my family. I also may be going to the state football championship games if the shcool I teach at and my ammater both make it. Fun stuff!

If there is a recall on your car, you probably don't need to wait for the letter - the dealership should be able to look it up.

Actually, I have been trying to get my car fixed for 2 months now. I have called the dealer and also GM itself and GM said that it can't be fixed until the recall is "official". It is a huge mess, but I have spent many hours on the phone trying to get this fixed. GM says they do not have the part to fix the problem yet so if I get it fixed I will have to pay out of pocket and since the recall is dealing with the engine...well I don't have the money to pay out of pocket for an engine rebuilt. So I wait...just like GM told me to do.

I like your new title! Very fitting!

It's hard with those students who you do everything you can to help them, but yet them won't make any effort at all. You're a great teacher and obviously care so much about your students! Very cool about your football team! Hope they make it!!!

Wow, it's hard to believe that the year is flying by so fast and that we are already coming to the holidays again! Very cool that you are hosting Thanksgiving. I know how much work it is, but it's exciting to spend that time with family! =)

Calm week...but BORING! Finals this week so it has been a lot of me not doing anything, although I have prepared for next trimester. My only two complaints and stress is my car (two days this week taking 10 minutes to get started) and my students. As I posted before, I gave everyone a chance to make it, but many students did not take the opportunity and also some I said they had to pass the final (60 out of 100), but they just joked and did nothing during the day to review, and then they have the nerve to blame me...URGH!!!!! It frustrates me that I give the students all these opportunities and they just wait until the last minute and still blame me if they fail. Oh well...I will just have them again next year.

Tonight I am raking leaves again. The tree in my backyard is still full of leaves. Maples take forever to lose their leaves, but I still have tons on teh ground. I also have my older nephews so S is excited to jump in the leaves with them and do a few other things. Tomorrow it is supposed to rain so I will clean the house and maybe we will go to the mall to walk around. Sunday is church. NExt week is a full week, but will hopefully go fast being the first week of the new trimester and then only 2 days the week after.

I am excited how I got the Thanksgiving turkey for $8 so all I have left to get is some of the fresh stuff like apples (making a apple roasted turkey), sweet potatoes, another vegetable for the turkey which I don't remember, and pumpkin and baking apples for the two pies I am making (apple and pumpkin). Friday I will be shopping, after Thanksgiving for some awesome deals although I am almost done. Then Saturday is christmas decorating day...unless both teams make it to state then I will be in Indy for the state games from Friday to Saturday.

Long day, but productive. I got music ready for the Sunday school play for Christmas. We have to start practicing tomorrow. I still need to write out a few things. Then I played candyland, chutes and ladders, dominoes, and memory. I cleaned the houseand reappolstered my dining room chairs that I got for free from my step-sister. Now S and I did stay in our pjs all day, but a lot got done and I am proud.

One thing I haven't mentioned lately is that S is back to being extremely clingy. It started Monday morning. He didn't want to go to school which is odd for him, and he is back to sleeping with me. He has been great so I am not sure what is going on. Just strange.

Nothing from H since Tuesday and nothing from the L...

S up all night coughing. No fever, tiredness, nothing but a cough and a runny nose. Around here, it has been unseasonably warm, although ending today, and on the news they were saying how many kids are having upper respiratory problems due to playing outside and people burning leaves. Normally it is not a problem because it is cold and kids aren't out, but with the warm weather kids are inhaling the smoke including the toxic chemicals that burning leaves give off...the upper respiratory problems.

If he is still bad tomorrow night, then Monday to the doctor. I already did the vicks on the chest and his humidifier...nothing else I can do since he is 3. He asked for mouth medicine, but nothing over the counter he can have...

Frustrated today about school and the politics of it. I have a classroom that can hold 30 students. I had 29 chairs and 1 busted one. I get a note saying that the busted one was welded (now it sits slanted and the weld looks like it is going to break). My students have to deal with it because there is no money to buy new chairs, however they are thinking about buying iPads for the science department when we don't even know if there will be enough bandwidth to support them to use them properly...my students have to be uncomfortable in twisted chairs because the money is going to better technology that may not even work.

Half the time our internet is down (at least once a week). My computer has said for over a week that it is not safe because the virus detector is not working properly and IT hasn't come to fix it so why spend thousands of dollars on new technology when we can't even buy a $50 new chair. The chairs are probably 30 years old so why not?

Then on top off all of that, my principal used something I said during lunch in the wrong way to help his agenda. I let a couple of students use their iPods to type their notes, but they noticed that it wasn't helpful so they went back to good old pen and paper. He said I let everyone do it all the time. UGH!

Lastly, I have a class of 30 students, mostly repeaters, and a fellow teacher who is teaching the exact same class 5th hour has only 15. How is that right? These kids need more one on one attention that I cannot give them in a class of 30, but they won't switch the kid to 5th hour because it might mess up an elective. I am all for the arts, but when a kid has failed a class numerous times, the elective goes to put the kid in the best placement for him/her. It may not be what they want, but at some point the students have to start feeling the pain of them choosing to fail classes (not getting extra help, skipping, not turning in extra assignments, only giving the bare minimum until right before it counts, etc). We need to do what is best for the kids to learn, not what they want. That right there is what is wrong with public education. TOO MUCH emphasis on what the kids want instead of what is best for their learning. Less money and bigger classes won't help that. We need to go back to smaller classes that are fun because with fun comes learning.

Anyway now off my rant.

Other thing on my mind, I read on the news this morning that something happened in H's corporation and I automatically thought "I wonder if H is involved". I can't say on here what the situation is, but it is horrible that I would think that H is capable of causing problems, but this is right up his alley. It is something he could very well have done and that scares me. I would like to talk to H about it because I think it is something we need to talk about because it is about trust, but at the same time, I think I should probably just leave it alone.

H text last night to check on S. I had to ask H if he could stay home with S yesterday if it was needed since it was the first day of my new trimester. He said he would, but S didn't need to. S is still coughing a bit, but it is much better and not keeping him up all night. Then later H asked about his Harry Potter DVDs. I said I didn't want them and told him all of his things he could get at any time because they are boxed up and ready (all said very respectfully and nicely). Then I asked if he would give back my Divorce Remedy book and the book on forgiveness I got and let him read called Love Honor Forgive. I want them so if I ever has someone who needs help and before I get into another serious relationship. I have been to refer to or let someone borrow. I also asked if he wanted any of the stuffed animals he gave me. I kept a few of them that were especially sentimental, but the rest I am going to give to charity. H never got back to me. I don't get that either. He asks about stuff and I respond. I ask and he just never responds...what is up?

Anyway I now feel better getting that all off my chest. Things are actually really good with me. I feel very happy and content right now. I am very excited that next week at this time I will be on my last day of school for the week. I definitely need a longer vacation to have some me time and just relax like I did last weekend.

I completely hear you on the school stuff. I definitely respect you and all the teachers like you that do the best you can with what you are given. It's so sad that although the # 1 priority should be the kids and helping them get the best education possible but unfortunately, that always seems to take the backburner, especially in light of all the budget cuts. There's no easy answer, but it's definitely frustrating.

I think regarding talking with H about the trust issue, you are just going to have to let go. I'm sure you've seen by now that there is nothing H can say to help ease that worry (if he even gives you a response in the first place). Really, the only way to rebuild trust is to see action, but now that you are not actively involved in each others life, so would not have the opportunity nor the desire to do so. I think you just have to accept that and be cognisent of the truth of which it is based on (meaning there is history for the reason you don't trust him, so don't let it rule you, but still be weary, esp if it could ever affect S. ie. if the corporation thing turns out to be true).

I totally hear you about the no response text back thing. SOOOO FRUSTRATING! H had a time where he was doing that to me too (always expected a response from me but hardly ever gave them back). I finally called him on it and he got a little better, but unfortunately, I don't think that would work for your H. Maybe let him see how if feels sometimes. Obviously it's important to be responsive about S, but if he texts like something about his Harry Potter Dvd's again, he can just continue to sit there and wonder!

This week I noticed how much I am in need of some adult interaction. My week is S and I all week long. I have kids all day, go home to S, and then on Saturdays I either have S or I am usually by myself catching up on things I can't do with S. Then Sundays I am a sunday school teacher...more kids.

I love what I am doing and I love S, but definitely need some adult interaction during the week nights that is not related to kids because that is all I do.

This weekend I am going with some girls to see a Christmas display at our local history museum. Then next week is only two days so I get a few of being with adults like on Thanksgiving and such.

Still having a good time and all so that is not a problem. S is still extrememly clingy so I am not sure why. It has been this way for two weeks. Otherwise I believe that is it. I am calling the L today because nothing from her in a month...again.