But Not All At Once

Anne Smith
But Not All At Once

Every last woman, even the glossy picture of perfection who intimidates you to bits, has a story that would stun you. It's time we hear it. Let's discuss it all, learn it all, figure it all out - but not all at once.

  1. 01/12/2023

    Harry, Meghan & A Million Headlines

    Welcome to 2023 and a metric ton of royal updates, flip-flopping opinions and journalistic analysis. Recently, royal-watching has been both a sociological study and a Rorschach test; what we see reveals much about us. If you haven't heard the in-depth walk-through of H&M's first three docuseries episodes, listen to The Doc Without Drama before pressing play here. (BTW, an additional 100-minute royal rundown will be live tomorrow on Patreon as thanks for subscribing!) I intended this to be a streamlined chat, but it's far less cohesive than a typical episode. And to be fair, if we were gathered in person with something to sip and snack on, the word count could have doubled easily. There's just so much to unpack. Come back next week for a breakdown of Spare; the publicity gaffes that shifted my opinions; the next steps I'd advise, were H&M my clients; and how the most intense scrutiny since Diana's death may impact the monarchy itself and the family inside it. Recent news stories mentioned: Lady Susan Hussey's bias, resignation & horrendous hostessing; her apology Prince Harry's "kill number" & hopes of suicide prevention Jeremy Clarkson's disgusting column Royal family silent about Clarkson's vitriol Disgraced Prince Andrew's security still paid for by family Andrew included in family's annual Christmas stroll Harry is first royal to reference his uncle's "shameful scandal" Meghan given 30-point "how to be a princess" dossier pre-wedding Royal episodes to explore: Don't Call It A Megxit (January 2020) HRH No More: Sussexit’s Conclusion (January 2020) Megs & Haz Take Hollywood (April 2020) Finding Freedom: A Sussexit Book Report (August 2020) A Royal Rundown: What Comes Next (February 2021) Oprah, Harry, Meghan & Media Madness (March 2021) "Lili? But...": A  Baby's Name & a Brouhaha (June 2021) Thanks for being here, y'all! I'd love your thoughts, questions, ideas, and everything in between. You can find me at @ButNotAllAtOnce on social media or ButNotAllAtOnce.com. For extra content, additional episodes, and upcoming guest follow-ups, visit Patreon.

    1h 32m
  2. 12/10/2022

    Harry & Meghan: The Documentary Without Drama?

    After a sabbatical, we're back with a quick-turnaround episode dissecting the first three episodes of the Sussexes' Netflix documentary. Come back next week for a breakdown of the final three! We mix in a bit of history, context, caveats and perspective, but I anticipate a third episode will come post-documentary where we dive into the Queen's death and funeral; who's gotten new titles; who didn't inherit the ones they were promised; who's in danger of losing theirs; what King Charles' coronation could kick off; how Icky Andrew has been doing; and if Harry's memoir release next month will rock the monarchy or be more of the same. Thanks for your patience, kindness, check-ins, conversations and constant presence in my life even when we're not sharing these conversations every week. Excited to be back and chatting with you again! (So long as no one else tells me I'm sending people to hell or that my children deserve pity for having me as a mother. I touch on that story today and we'll explore a bit more later.) Whether you agree with my royal ramblings or not, I welcome all pleasant and sane messages. Find me at butnotallatonce.com or @butnotallatonce. xoxo Other royal episodes to explore: Don't Call It A Megxit (January 2020) HRH No More: Sussexit’s Conclusion (January 2020) Megs & Haz Take Hollywood (April 2020) Finding Freedom: A Sussexit Book Report (August 2020) A Royal Rundown: What Comes Next (February 2021) Oprah, Harry, Meghan & Media Madness (March 2021) "Lili? But...": A  Baby's Name & a Brouhaha (June 2021) Thanks for being here, y'all! I'd love your thoughts, questions, ideas, and everything in between. You can find me at @ButNotAllAtOnce on social media or ButNotAllAtOnce.com. For extra content, additional episodes, and upcoming guest follow-ups, visit Patreon.

    2h 5m
  3. 08/25/2022

    The Birds & The Bees

    Nothing about growing up is easy, whether you have kids or not. To be candid, my four children have done nothing but make clear how NOT grown up or prepared I am for the realities of life with children in 2022. Today, Meg and Mary Flo of Birds & Bees are here to save us. And maybe our sanity and a whole lot of face while they're at it! Every part of parenthood requires a deep bench and lots of backup. Today, I hope you'll hear how many folks are in your corner. Whether it's learning to label "vulva" with the same calm countenance as "elbow," your backup has arrived. If you're ready for a deeper bench, word-for-word scripts, and even more help in talking to your kids about their weird, amazing bodies and the wild world of procreation, Meg and Mary Flo are offering But Not All At Once listeners a discount! Use BUTNOT20 as a discount code to receive 20% off their online course for parents of kids up to 10 years old. The aim is to get ahead of these topics, establish yourself as an expert, and have many small conversations with your children instead of one awkward big one. We're getting rid of "The Talk" and invite you to join us in a "But Not All At Once" approach to the birds and the bees! Thanks for being here, y'all! I'd love your thoughts, questions, ideas, and everything in between. You can find me at @ButNotAllAtOnce on social media or ButNotAllAtOnce.com. For extra content, additional episodes, and upcoming guest follow-ups, visit Patreon.

    1h 25m
  4. 02/03/2022

    Hope is Worth the Wait with Megan Scherer

    In the midst of a challenging season (say, facing your high school sweetheart's metastatic cancer diagnosis), it can be hard to see anything beyond the moment ahead. Envisioning the future, or even making it through the next step, can seem downright impossible. Megan Scherer knows that feeling well, and her family has used it to change the lives of others'. The Scherers' charity, Worth the Wait, provides emotional and financial support for cancer patients hoping to preserve their fertility or, once their health allows, grow their families through IUI, IVF, surrogacy or adoption. A single question from a doctor led Megan's husband to bank his sperm and leave the Scherers' options open post-cancer. Even so, it took seven IUIs and countless prayers before they were able to meet their miracle baby, Elliott. Though their initial hope had been to have a second baby, Megan says that isn't in the cards - and counsels friends, family, and curious fellow parents not to pry into others' family-planning. The Scherers' story is one of healing, hope, and offering the same to others. You can support Worth the Wait here and learn more about its work on Instagram. To support this podcast, visit our Patreon. If you'd like to subscribe to our forthcoming e-newsletter (think: royal gossip; is Jamie Lynn Spears a villain or a victim; what's your winning Wordle strategy; and how many times do people need to post their scores before they feel good about their puzzle-solving skillz?), visit ButNotAllAtOnce.com and drop your email address in the pop-up box. Chat with you soon! xo, A Thanks for being here, y'all! I'd love your thoughts, questions, ideas, and everything in between. You can find me at @ButNotAllAtOnce on social media or ButNotAllAtOnce.com. For extra content, additional episodes, and upcoming guest follow-ups, visit Patreon.

    1h 7m

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Every last woman, even the glossy picture of perfection who intimidates you to bits, has a story that would stun you. It's time we hear it. Let's discuss it all, learn it all, figure it all out - but not all at once.

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