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If It's A Choice, My Zygote Chose Balls: Making Sense of Senseless Controversy Paperback – May 29, 2012
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Jeremy Hooper's Good As You website (www.GoodAsYou.org) is known for blending passion and wit, making the case for LGBT equality worldwide. In If It’s a Choice, My Zygote Chose Balls: Making Sense of Senseless Controversy, Jeremy continues that style, blending a unique mix of memoir and social commentary that argues for equal rights based on relatable human principles.
Hooper leads readers through his own life story, revealing the positive and unnecessarily encumbered aspects of growing up gay in contemporary society. The noted author and activist writes in a sometimes humorous, sometimes serious, but always sharply informed style, opening a window into the realities of family rejection and acceptance. Whether offering direct guidance for would-be straight allies or sharing the inner monologue of a boy who knew who he was long before early adulthood would allow him to own it, Hooper provides a wealth of insight and argument to push the equality conversation forward.
“From constant talk about marriage to the popular parlor game ‘Which celebrity is gay?’ our world is, in many ways, obsessed with LGBT topics,” says Hooper. “However, there is serious neglect in terms of actually tackling the issues at hand. I want to address the weighty topics head on, but in a relatable way.”
As someone who spends ten to twelve daily hours slogging through the "culture war" for his celebrated website, Jeremy Hooper knows better than anyone how far the LGBT community still has to go in order to obtain full equality. At the same time, his focused lens had led him to believe that some of the usual LGBT activism has isolated the fight and stories, leaving much of the continued struggle to go unrealized by the population at large. So Hooper's answer is to present relatable tales that are just as proactive in changing hearts and minds as any textbook gay rights treatment, but doing so in a package that pops with universal heart and wit. Hooper calls out the B.S. for what it is, while keeping an equal focus on uniting folks from all walks of life for the common causes of peace, equality, acceptance, and, ironically enough–family values. All of this while remembering to keep his tongue in or around the cheek region.
Written to engage and entertain, as well as inspire further discussion and action, the book is aimed at a wide range of readers interested and open to learning.
- Print length238 pages
- LanguageEnglish
- Publication dateMay 29, 2012
- Dimensions6 x 0.6 x 9 inches
- ISBN-100615574548
- ISBN-13978-0615574547
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- Publisher : Good As You
- Publication date : May 29, 2012
- Edition : First Edition
- Language : English
- Print length : 238 pages
- ISBN-10 : 0615574548
- ISBN-13 : 978-0615574547
- Item Weight : 12.6 ounces
- Dimensions : 6 x 0.6 x 9 inches
- Best Sellers Rank: #9,049 in LGBTQ+ Demographic Studies
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Customers find this book highly entertaining and engaging, with a compelling narrative that successfully interjects witty humor throughout. Moreover, they appreciate its thought-provoking content, with one customer noting it provides a great deal of food for thought. Additionally, the book is deeply personal, with one review describing how it seamlessly weaves the author's personal story, and another highlighting how it presents a poignant journey through a closeted upbringing.
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Customers find the book highly entertaining and powerful, with one customer noting it's a great read for members of the LGBT community.
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- Reviewed in the United States on June 13, 2012I cannot remember exactly how or when I first came across Jeremy Hooper's blog Good As You; perhaps through a link from the Advocate or Human Rights Campaign or just the trusty old Google. What I can tell you is that it is a rare day that I don't visit his site at least once to read up on the latest slings and arrows that have been tossed in this current culture war. Jeremy's writing coupled with his investigative skills have provided a unique, reasoned and calming voice in the battle for full equality.
But who is this young man who has taken on the anti-gay pundits, whom he refers to as `mo foes, with both wit and reason? In his book, If It's A Choice, Jeremy openly and honestly tells his story. I, who am only 5 years his senior, found that his coming out process was very similar to my own. The awareness, the implications, the fear of discovery, the hiding; these were all what Jeremy, myself, and indeed hundreds of LGBT youth went through and are currently going through. While the steps might be different for some, and not always as humorous, what comes through to the reader is that this is an honest story and it could very easily be your story too.
Through the clever use of chapters taken as an aside to the main story, the "Despite what you may have heard" sections are Jeremy's clever way of confronting LGBT stereotypes with his caustic wit, humor and open honesty. After all, when it comes to the stereotypes who are you going to believe, the anti-gay fear mongers or those of us who are actually LGBT?
Several years ago, I was talking with my Dad about some comments made by the Church in response to marriage equality and homosexuality; I was furious at the hypocrisy in light of the scandal the Church was involved in. "Who were they," I argued, "to make such comments about sin and immoral behavior when all this had been going on for years!" My Dad's response was simply "You know, in my day, these discussions wouldn't have even been possible. Think about how far things have come in such a short amount of time." As with most things, my Dad was right. The discussions and progress made in the fight for full equality have been, not in small steps, but in leaps and bounds thanks to people like Jeremy Hooper standing at the forefront showing everyone that we are all as Good As You.
- Reviewed in the United States on August 3, 2012What do you get when you combine a memoire that is sometimes heart-breaking and sometimes heart-warming, a well thought out discussion that is both intelligent and funny, a kind, warm-hearted personality, and a witty sense of humor? You get Jeremy Hooper's book. When I sat down to read Jeremy's book, I expected to enjoy it. I was interested in learning more about his childhood and background as well as the extensive, passionate, tireless work he does to promote and support LGBT rights. What I didn't expect was to truly be moved by his book. I found myself smiling at some points and tearing up at others. I was blown away by his intelligence and by the way he was able to successfully interject witty humor into a discussion about issues that for many are so heart-wrenching. His arguments are intelligent and well thought out and are always made without attacking others, which I think is a tremendous testament to why Jeremy's work has been so successful. But most of all, I found myself looking inward at the ways that I perhaps need to change in my own life to help further the cause that Jeremy fights so valiantly for on a daily basis.
Jeremy is someone I have had the good fortune of calling "family" for the last five years, even though the title that connects us is "husband's sister's husband's brother's husband"...a loose connection by definition but a strong connection the love he has always expressed towards myself, my husband, and my son. I have always been proud to consider Jeremy a part of our family. I am also proud to say that my ultra-conservative (personally and politically) 90 year-old grandmother, who reads the bible every single day of the year, was not only delighted to read Jeremy's book but thought his writing was extraordinarily intelligent and was truly moved by his passion. I strongly believe that anyone, no matter what his or her beliefs, would benefit from reading this book!!
- Reviewed in the United States on October 17, 2012Having followed Mr. Hooper's blog for about a year, I was excited to hear he had a book forthcoming. When I at last had it in hand, I was not disappointed. Mr. Hooper's humor shines through as expected. While his story is at times heartbreaking (and all too familiar), the grace, levity, and humanity with which he recounts his tale is refreshing, and makes this book an easy read. It is a volume I have eagerly recommended to family members who are struggling to reconcile their modern mainstream Christian beliefs with the knowledge that one of their relatives is gay. In that respect, it is not only an entertaining and enlightening read, it's also a very useful tool for dealing with family who are struggling with acceptance.
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- TrockReviewed in the United Kingdom on February 19, 2013
5.0 out of 5 stars Great book-just like chatting to a friend!
I wasn't quite sure what to expect when I bought this book, as I had never heard of Jeremy-but it sounded interesting so I thought I would give it a go. I am so glad I did-it was exactly like having a conversation with an incredibly interesting and well-informed friend (albeit one who loves to go off at a tangent and goes from A-B by way of C,D,E,F and of course G!) I finished the book in a day and then proceeded to email the author to fill in my half of the conversation!
This book was a wonderful mix of autobiography and activism, pathos and humour. The tales of a young Jeremy growing up and realising that he liked boys were equally funny (his tale of himself mentally and physically performing acrobatics in order to catch a tantalising glimpse of testicles had me roaring with laughter!) and tragic.The very real angst of the 16 year old Jeremy over how to behave in order to read the "gay edition"of "Entertainment Weekly" without attracting attention from his family as to his sexuality struck me as so very sad that home and family, which should be a place of refuge and safety and acceptance is in actuality the opposite for so many GLBTQ teens. As a parent there were many points which I have mentally filed on the "what not to do list".
I thought the author struck a very good balance between sharing his personal story and highlighting issues and problems which affect the wider community. From the book I have found my way to his blog and will look forward to hearing more! Thoroughly recommend.
- Ken KaczmarskiReviewed in Canada on March 9, 2013
5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent Read
This book was an amazing read that captivated me from beginning till end. The poignant personal stories mixed in with the advocacy made both the author and his advocacy points very powerful and compelling to read. I find his calm demeanour, and his humourous attitude and writing style offer a much needed and refreshing change of pace from the rhetoric of too many other advocates (of both sides sometimes) who often get hard to listen to.
I finsihed the book within a week of receiving it and I have read it a second time (again finishing within a week). I am also sure that in the future when I am looking for a booster shot of inspiration I may find myself reading it again as Jeremy's life helps us see that we can find and celebrate true love in our own lives, whether that love is conventional or not.
- Mark TwainReviewed in Canada on July 18, 2013
1.0 out of 5 stars boring dragging story
Of course you can read the raving reviews written by copywriters of the publisher about this book but here is an honest one:
This is 2013 and homosexuality has been accepted ten years ago. And yet we find another book about how a book finds his true nature and how he -so many years later- fights the demons of the past. Long sentences that are probably appreciated by the writer himself and probably his mother made me regret spending any money on it. We know the message of the gay community by now, perhaps it's time for the gays to accept that no one really cares anymore. This story can be found in thousands of books across the globe and it's old. And boring.